Monday, July 20, 2009

The Dominant < I >

Our son, Jason, recently had eye surgery. On our drive home from his surgery, J' explained a few more details about his eyes. His doctor told him that his right eye is his 'dominant eye.'

Now, Maria, being who she is,
had to use the opportunity to make a play on words.

"Dad and I are occasionally in a contest to see who will be the
The Dominant < I > "

My retorts usually sound like this:
Oh, if we're taking your car, then I'll have to take everything out of my car.
I do the most dishes, no contest.
It's not just my stuff that makes the basement intolerable.
Despite the way I last drove on the highway...
I still unabashedly "backseat drive."

Jason and I agreed it's all just small stuff...
... I am eternally grateful for that...
Chris and I call a truce to these tiny moments during which we wrangle for 'dominance' or historical accuracy by saying the magic words:
"It goes waaaay.... back."
We laugh at ourselves and get off our high horses!

At 21 years of age, and our youngest, Jason is already so very wise...
He smiled a knowing smile.

For 31 years, Chris and I have assigned to God the role of the "Dominant < I >"
... The Great I Am...
We often laugh at ourselves as we try to assume His place in the center of our marriage...and find ourselves acting more like 'turkeys.'

When we let go of our need to control each other and every situation ...We resume loving...and God is back in the center. us wisdom, patience, love and faith.

Is God the Dominant < I > in the other areas of my life?

Matthew 10:39
He who seeks his life will lose it; and he who loses his life for my sake will find it.


Farmgirl Cyn said...

Maria! I LIKE this! How many times have "I" tried to be the dominant "I"??? Too many to count. Thank God for His mighty work on the cross, that I could be forgiven.

Wanda said...

Very good and at times on words Maria...I see a little of "this couple in my house" in your words. :) (:

Marg said...

I loved the post...That sounds like so many conversations that I know, and then I learned all about not accusing anyone else, but saying,I feel as if.....
Now my kids say, "Quit using your Pscyhology."

Or we say, Can I suggest something?
O we are forever learning, but it's so good to know that our Dominant one really knows what's going on inside and knows all our intentions.
I need to practice that verse, that says.
"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:"
James 1:19, KJV

CumuloNimbucile said...

Great post hon... By the way, at 1100 dishes a night for 4 years in college... you'll never catch me. Yeah I know.... college days go waaaaay back... ;>)

Garnetrose said...

Oh, I think we all try to be the dominent one at times but in order for me to be truely happy, I have to let God be the dominent 1 and for our marriage to work, hubby and I both decided God had to be the dominent 1. Good post.

Calm Energy said...

I appreciate all these comments and further in'sights' into how we see one another and ourselves.
~ Smiling and reflecting ~
Thank you for spending time here ~Maria

Anneliese said...

I like the thought you put into this "dominant I" thing. With my contacts in I read distance with my dominant eye, which is my right eye and close up reading I read with my left eye - this way I don't need bi-focal leses. It works for some. . . . maybe more.
I will remember the Great I Am...the dominant I. Thank you for your visits and encouragement.